True spiritual strength and true humanity are revealed above all in adversity, in dignity despite pain. People who have suffered but still retain marks of humanity and impulses of love represent the true strength of being and the maintenance of one’s course of consciousness.
According to Khalil Gibran, the more pain deepens within us, the more joy we can also contain. If we avoid our depths, then we experience little true joy. If we succeed in denying this reality of mourning, a rich but difficult territory, we remain psychologically light and partial. We then live in a surface culture, flat, shallow. The scope of what we really allow ourselves to feel in our depths remains narrow. Our range of emotions remains narrow.
William Blake also said: “the greater the pain, the greater the joy”. These are our unexpressed sorrows, our stories of loss weighing us down; which left unattended block our access to the soul. Pain opens us to real life. Grief carves riverbeds towards our soul. Without judgment or contempt, our psychic life unfolds and transcends our limitations. Grief is not a problem to be solved; it is a path that makes us more human, a solitary path that we cannot take alone according to Francis Weller.
Fully going through a personal crisis can allow us to reconnect with our inner depths, to carry out this work of the soul regenerating the being of love that we are so that he can approach a new stage of his more human life, truer because closer to its essence, what we really are. This personal journey depends on each person and the nature of the loss (job, health, material possessions, love life, family, etc.).
This traumatic event represents, if the person has never suffered or suffered loss in their life, the first opportunity to connect with their soul: real life can then begin. From now on, being is built more from within. These are relative personal failures, but which nevertheless enter into the same process of stripping oneself, of losing something precious.
The initiatory importance of this ordeal comes precisely from the value given to the lost thing. For there to be a work of renunciation, of surpassing oneself, one must really hold on to things; otherwise it feels like good riddance. This requires more or less difficult work depending on the maturity of the beings and the seriousness of the situation, depending on the thickness of the impacted wall separating him from his essence, that is to say from himself.
These more or less painful moments are very important in life, because they represent its ultimate experience, pushing beings to their inner boundaries. Because if the mourning process is finalized, if the loss of personality is overcome; glimmers of truth and fulfillment illuminate their depths. The more quickly the being has accomplished the work of overcoming, the more it will have been able to access its hitherto unsuspected depths; he will then be able to live even more according to his unique inner truth.